Sometimes when I talk with people about their work and career direction, their response is something like, "Well, I used to want to ______" or "I thought about _______". Those types of responses prompt me to ask "What are you waiting for?" Often they are not sure, but their sense is that they are either comfortable where they are or they are not really sure that is what they want.
Change, planned or unplanned, can be stressful and can be very scary, so sometimes we decide not to make a change. Unfortunately, I have also talked to many people who had not planned to make a change but were forced into it by their employer - through cutbacks, layoffs, and shut downs. Our sense of being 'comfortable as is' is tenuous at best these days. Preparing for "what if" can add a sense of some security in that you would already have a plan in place - if you happen to lose your job. Sometimes the 'what if ' plan is so attractive, they decide to launch it anyway.
For those who are not sure that what they have dreamed of is what they still want, then we can work at clarifying that picture and gaining more information and insight about that particular dream. Doing some informational interviews and reading research can help increase your knowledge base. Comparing what you know about you and what you know about a particular line of work can then be done based on some fairly solid data. Some people are able to do some volunteer work closely related to that dream work or shadow someone who is in that area. Both of those opportunities allow you to sort of 'try on' a different type of work. Be creative in coming up with ways to learn more and, if possible, 'try it on before you buy it.' If you already have a plan, at least partly developed, it can make an unplanned transition easier to cope with.
Mary Ann Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in private practice providing coaching and counseling for life's transitions; including a career change or job search, as well as loss of job, retirement planning, coping with an empty nest, and other life planning issues. She is certified as a Master Career Counselor (MCC) by the National Career Development Association; a Life/Work Counselor by the National Employment Counseling Association; and is a Distance Credentialed Counselor (DCC). Please visit her web site at www.YourCareerPlan.com for more information.
To contact Mary Ann, please call (513) 665-4444 x3 and leave a personal and confidential message or send an email to YourCareerPlan@cinci.rr.com.